Checking In On Relationships

Even people in the most committed relationships can benefit from regular relationship check-ins—assessing communication, expectations, and intimacy, among other important dynamics. As these committed couples understand where they’re experiencing weaknesses, they’re able to take simple course-correcting steps to keep their relationships strong and stable.

If relationships are neglected, however, it “takes enormous resources of patience, effort, and courage to put things together again.” 


The Relationship Check-In Assessment

Regular relationship check-ins can help bring awareness to areas of struggle or conflict before they become a larger problem—and that’s exactly what our new assessment is meant to do. Relationship Check-In is an assessment that can be completed in just 60 seconds, and measures relationships across 11 key dimensions. These research-based dimensions were carefully selected by Drs. Scott Stanley, Galena Rhoades, and Peter Larson, and include:

  • Appreciation

  • Conflict

  • Forgiveness

  • Finances

  • Spiritual beliefs

    ... and more key areas.

It can be taken by one or both partners, and provides immediate feedback upon completion. For the organization administering the assessment, this means valuable information you can see real-time on a comprehensive dashboard.  Information such as: 

  • Trends among couples related to their strengths and focus areas

  • The factors that differentiate the more satisfied couples from those who are struggling

  • Comparisons between relationally healthy couples across age demographics



This information can provide you with the information you need to provide new opportunities or courses that strengthen your people. And it’s not just for married couples. This assessment is also perfect for those who are engaged or seriously dating.

It’s also included with Gloo. Simply go to your Assessments dashboard and check it out. 




Why It’s a Big Deal

Many studies have been done on the impact of relationships, notably Harvard’s Grant and Glueck studies, which, combined, tracked more than 700 men for 75 years. Several generations of researchers later, they’ve made this statement, “The clearest message that we get from this 75-year study is this: Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Period.”

Robert Waldinger, director of Harvard Study of Adult Development, elaborated on the study when he said, “It’s not just the number of friends you have, and it’s not whether or not you’re in a committed relationship. It’s the quality of your close relationships that matter.” 

In an Inc. article about healthy marriages, the author references psychologist Raymond Knee when he says,  “partners with strong growth beliefs cultivate high-quality relationships by working and growing together. They view conflict and other relationships difficulties as opportunities to develop a stronger relationship.”

On the flip side, Dr. John Gottman’s research concludes, “the average couple waits six years before seeking help for marital problems.” 

Relationship Check-In is an opportunity to do regular, short self-assessments, so problem areas can be identified—and so couples can take the opportunity to talk to their partner before six years have snuck by. It also helps you, as an organization dedicated to personal growth, understand the specific needs of your people, so you can help them in ways that make the biggest impact.




Getting Started

If you already subscribe to Gloo, you can find the Relationship Check-In in your Assessments library.

If you’re new to Gloo, we’d love to walk you through a demo of Assessments so you can get the full picture of how assessments on Gloo can help you.


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